Notes from Course
LOVE PEOPLE
Alex Snary – Emotional Intelligence
If you had to choose between getting the job
done or developing a relationship what would you choose?
If we don’t know how
to work in a way that maintains relationships everything fails
Look back on your
school years – what do you take away with you?
Successful leadership
and emotional intelligence
Studies – what leads
to people moving up the ladder – the ability to be able to relate to others
When people are in a
positive environment they are much more successful
Daniel Goldman
Are we equipping our
children for a successful life?
Things that show poor
emotional intelligence skills
The ability to listen to others
Defensiveness
Need to control others
Need to win the
conversation
The Opposite
Lack of defensive
Open to others
Value others
Sensitivity
Release people into
their gifting
Abide by a decision
that didn’t go your way.
Some of us start
further down the line in emotional intelligence – we can all get better at it
Self awareness – if I am not aware of how I am feeling – then
I can actively manage it
Strengths, weakness
Whats causing me to
feel this way?
Self assessment/ leads
naturally to confidence in ourselves. We
cannot change what we are not aware of.
Openly assess
ourselves
Its what we do with
the emotion that counts
We need people in our
lives that can speak to us (students – knowing them)
Have at least 3 people
that can speak to you in your lives
Reflection after
feedback – space for reflection (in class)
Regular feedback with
students
Self Management – once I understand I have the power on how to
respond
Looking around us – in
our workplace/to others
The brain should rule
the heart – thinking before we speak
Leadership – be
perceived as trustworthy
Adaptability – adapt
leadership style according to situation (different students/classes)
Trustworthiness –
integrity, honesty, self control
Social Awareness
Family/Collegues/Students
Sensing emotions of
others – empathy
Social Clues – whats
not being said
Physical cues/non
verbal ques
Having the interest to
ask questions and observe
Love people
Levels of loving
people – Do we really love our kids?
Any other motivation
apart from love students will pick this up.
Have a heart for
people
Pray for a heart for people. How do I keep loving them?
Empathy will naturally
flow from this
Got to have the love
to engage. Empathy leads to social
awareness
What is my
motivation? Am I serving the interest of
the students I teach?
Relationship management – improving the way we have relationship with
others
People with higher EQ
naturally find themselves in positions where they are given permission to speak
into peoples lives
Love People
That what kids will
remember – those who encourage them, speak to them, love them genuinely
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