TBCS - Margaret - Conference - Emotional Intelligence

 

 Alex Snary Power Point

Notes from Course

LOVE PEOPLE

Alex Snary – Emotional Intelligence

If you had to choose between getting the job done or developing a relationship what would you choose?

If we don’t know how to work in a way that maintains relationships everything fails

Look back on your school years – what do you take away with you?

Successful leadership and emotional intelligence

Studies – what leads to people moving up the ladder – the ability to be able to relate to others

When people are in a positive environment they are much more successful

Daniel Goldman

Are we equipping our children for a successful life?

Things that show poor emotional intelligence skills

 The ability to listen to others

Defensiveness

Need to control others

Need to win the conversation

The Opposite

Lack of defensive

Open to others

Value others

Sensitivity

Release people into their gifting

Abide by a decision that didn’t go your way.

Some of us start further down the line in emotional intelligence – we can all get better at it

Self awareness – if I am not aware of how I am feeling – then I can actively manage it

Strengths, weakness

Whats causing me to feel this way?

Self assessment/ leads naturally to confidence in ourselves.  We cannot change what we are not aware of.

Openly assess ourselves

Its what we do with the emotion that counts

We need people in our lives that can speak to us (students – knowing them)

Have at least 3 people that can speak to you in your lives

Reflection after feedback – space for reflection (in class)

Regular feedback with students

Self Management – once I understand I have the power on how to respond

Looking around us – in our workplace/to others

The brain should rule the heart – thinking before we speak

Leadership – be perceived as trustworthy

Adaptability – adapt leadership style according to situation (different students/classes)

Trustworthiness – integrity, honesty, self control

Social Awareness

Family/Collegues/Students

Sensing emotions of others – empathy

Social Clues – whats not being said

Physical cues/non verbal ques

Having the interest to ask questions and observe

Love people

Levels of loving people – Do we really love our kids?

Any other motivation apart from love students will pick this up.

Have a heart for people

Pray for a heart for people.  How do I keep loving them?

Empathy will naturally flow from this

Got to have the love to engage.  Empathy leads to social awareness

What is my motivation?  Am I serving the interest of the students I teach?

Relationship management – improving the way we have relationship with others

People with higher EQ naturally find themselves in positions where they are given permission to speak into peoples lives

Love People

That what kids will remember – those who encourage them, speak to them, love them genuinely

Link to Standards

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